Spikes and Friendship

Every person has invisible spikes (like the spikes of Porcupine), some people have long spikes and some have short spikes. When someone have long spikes it is difficult to get close because it will hurt you. Anyway, our own spikes can hurt our friends too when we try to be close. That is why it is better to keep a hand distance if you are not good to clip your spikes or to bear with your friends spikes. Only mothers can bear the pain of their own kids. The purpose of this life is to get rid of those spikes so you can love anybody like a mother, especially yourself.

(A talk of Ajahn Brahm's and recent threat to friendship motivated to write this )

Have you seen your own face ?

If someone ask have you seen Taj Mahal or Pyramids probably you may answer no if you haven't really seen them by your eyes even you have seen many photos of them.

But if someone ask have you seen your own face ?  I would probably say yes, but I haven't really thought I have never see my own face yet but just 2D images from a camera or from a mirror (technically a remote sensing image) .

A dog who sees  itself from water think it is another dog and bark at it.

Humans think they see their face when they see themselves from a water surface.

Sheep - leadership and Japan

Have you ever heard how sheep always follow their fellow sheep in front no matter what happen, have a look into this video if you haven’t seen

Actually if one sheep jump over a cliff my mistake, all others would follow and die. This is coming from their genetics. But on the other hand this is reason why many flocks of sheep have survived over many hard situation over the time. There is a leader sheep who is much more intelligent and have a good sense of danger, all other sheep follow the leader no matter what happen. 

One interesting thing in Japan is they too would follow the leader, they would follow the experts in their filed. That’s why they have well developed system in all aspects, even a small drainage  is well designed.  however there are some negative points as well, because on average not all of the people would think creatively or try go in a different path. Yet as a flock of sheep, Japan always move faster following their leader sheep. 
On the other hand  in many other countries everyone think they are the leader sheep, everyone tries to go in a different path and finally no one cares for the actual leader. Thus finally  predators easily find their food which is quite unfortunate. 

Love and Understanding

If you are searching for a girl or boy who can understand you, to have a relationship, it means you have not understand what is real love is. Perfect relationship required unconditional love which doesn't depend on the understanding. Best example is the mother’s love towards her own child. They may not able to understand you, but still they love you, even though how naughty are you, how stupid are you, still loved you. No matter what mistakes you do their world is you. It doesn't matter whether you look cute or not that love is totally unconditional.  

If all mothers can love other children like their own child this world would be a far better place, on the other hand if you can love all the people you meet with unconditional kindness and forgiveness then they will soon love you as you love your mom.

Yeas of course it is easy to love someone who is like you, that’s is why you actually fall in love with someone not all the people. Also it can be a bit harder to love someone who's different, whose motivations you don't understand, especially for the persons you are meeting for the first time. But the effort is infinitely worth it. At least if you can make unconditional love to your partner no matter what they do then you are in “love”